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Why do we feel wanting to date a pretty face, needs justifying?

Why do we feel wanting to date a pretty face, needs justifying?

Seeing Bruce Springsteen sing we are the world along with the others in the video, I decided I want him. And I want him now. I’ve never been interested in his songs, they never touched me. They never moved me. But watching that younger version sing with his eyes closed. Good lord I m a believer. That’s when I realized. It matters. It definitely matters.

Easy on the eyes, easy on the heart, maybe not that cheesy. But being pretty helped. And how?! All I could think about was googling his name and torrenting his discography. So if a woman tells me, no I don’t care what the guy looks like, he has to be good and kind. I will point and yell lie!... LIE LIE LIE. You lie. With the ferocity of a lioness, Maybe not. But I will yell. Because, it matters. Yes it does. I care what he looks like. I want him tall I want him big , I want him pretty. Just as he wants me thin, wants me pretty. Can you blame them? Is it not the candy that you notice first? It’s a different thing if you don’t agree with e , that’s only because you are in denial and have not been Bruce Springsteened . That’s a predicament waiting for a shrink..

Scenario one- you walk into a club, your entire alum frequents so much so , that other non alum have stopped visiting the place. You enter this hole, and your eyes go to the sharpest, no explanations . Just yes or no. it does. Who? is your business, but it will fall on your idea of hot. Not on the one with the best personality. But the one who is delicious to look at, you want that tight piece of tush. Admit it already. The next time you point and say, men are shallow. Listen to your body, and how it reacts to Mr. Strong jaws or Mr.Six pack. When your own personnel Joe Cocker croons ‘you are so beautiful’, you’ll know what I say is true. Again, what happens after you enter the club and watch the man candy make an ass of himself, or he has a tongue piercing that makes you question his sexuality. Nevertheless, until proven otherwise, you’ve got belly flips and ears on fire every time he looks at you. He may turn out to be a grade A bastard , but you know what you and the girls are going to do. Hate him even more because he is a waste of pretty. And then judge other s of his kind, all good looking men are bastards. The ring widens with age to all men are scum , but that’s a different story.

These beautiful men, make us level headed women, do strange unbecoming things. If my memory serves me right, one such beauty, made me diligently visit the gym day after day. Olivia Newton Jhon was never truer. I was convinced that pout and broad shoulders would keep me coming back for more. I went to the gym on Saturdays, yes Saturdays. His bench press was stuff wet dreams are made of. The coy glances through the mirror,’can I help you with that?’ And leaving at the exact same moment every day, riding the elevator in absolute silence I m hot just thinking about it. He did what none have come close to doing; I lost ten kilos on the man honey programme. Yes I did.

Women akin to men, make it easy for “good looking rascals”… but one key difference. We hate the good looking as much as we love them. It’s a harder for him to fit in, because the other boys are threatened, and the girls are cautious. The heart breaker, is judged before he opens his mouth. He is expected to say two polarized sets of things, something extremely stupid and something extremely intelligent. Do you know how hard that would be? Fall on your face or be Mensa candidate. Anything.. If you do know what it feels like.. Give my ladies a shout out.. I m guessing you are phat. Moving on. The good looker, is also given a lot of slack, you commit a crime and everyone does a “omg but he is so good looking….” Yes they are pardoned with a plea bargain of I m too pretty for my own good. again its comes with the appealing wrapping paper.

I’ve seen how an absolute a grade male genital personified was given a pass even though he was duller than John Abraham’s acting(good lord that boy is fine.) he would say the most ridiculously dull things, and all of us would go, “he is such a boring sob, but he is so pretty……..”….( Groaning included)

A man’s good looks, we expect him to be insanely good in mills and boons way, the type where two opposite characteristics are put together and expected to co-exist. The strong but gentle. Make up your mind already! Strong or gentle.. Or strongly gentle, Or gently strong… these people who put.. Transparent but mysterious.. And hot but humble in the same sentence, are just plain greedy. Like the bisexuals. Pick a bloody side!

Why you shouldn’t be coy about wanting a beautiful man? Here’s why, because you should not expect anything but the best. Women have been trained to settle. Well, stop the habit. Break the cycle. Have you seen those odd couples, gorgeous voluptuous woman with balding passive aggressive pot bellied Frodo? Yes, it is not because he has character. It’s probably because she bloomed late, or she is like all of us trained to believe we should deny our instincts. I make no apologies for anything I will say, a conversation with my very wise best friend who I also dated for a bit (I mention this purely because , you d realize how much close those friendships are.), told me how shallow his kind were, and I enjoy honesty. He admitted a stupid but pretty girl had longer shelf life than ugly dumb girl. Maybe they’d tire of her eventually, but it would take longer. And that was the truth. A beautiful pig of a woman was also tolerable. A beautiful bitchy woman, big thumbs up. I enjoy honesty; I enjoy the simplicity of it. It takes time to get used to the fact that we are a superficial shallow species of mammals who only wants to perpetuate as much as we perpetually can. But you eventually do, and then it’s easy. Come over to this side.

Pride yourself in your looks; I detest women who say, “he should love me no matter what I look like.” Give me a bloody break. Really? unshaven, badly dressed and smelly?... do you really want someone who wants that? Do you expect so little of yourself that you d let yourself go and be a slob. Isn’t it nice to look on the outside what you feel on the inside. Confident, smart, sexy and sophisticated. There will be times when you are unwell and just don’t feel like it, that doesn’t excuse a constant repulsion of bathing products.

Let me let you in on some Gyaan , if you make an effort to get dressed up and look the best you possibly can and should someone like what they see, and decide to stick around. You’ve reeled in a good un, like attracts like. And we are so self obsessed we fall for people just like us. And if you dress like a slob.. Honey.. a slob you will get. There are only a few minutes of weather you can talk about. Eventually you’ll know If there is more you can tolerate. And when that happens, and you seem to never run out of things to talk about, it’s worth a shot. After a year the chemicals in your head die down either way. There after it’s up to you, stick it out, move on to the next. That’s not my interest, what I want is, to break the cycle. Expect the best from yourself, and others. It’s ok to expect! its respectable to expect, give people the opportunity to prove themselves worthy , just as you would. Be the best you can, and you’ll get the best in return. Thereby breaking the succession of half hearted romances, bed hopping and badly dressed people.

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